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Was Alan a Victim Too?

Vermont, November 6, 2006
Dear All,
When my brother, Alan, changed into a cold, angry, hateful, mean person around the age of 14 and continued to plummet throughout the remaining 19 years of his life ... I always blamed the family dynamics.
The fact is, Alan could very well have suffered the indignities (or the mere SUGGESTION of same) at the hands of our minister. NO, he was never an alter boy, but he really may have just been rubbed the wrong way by the mere knowledge that his friends were so abused.
I'll never know. His suicide ended any possibility of interogation.
No, never give up. Thanks, Mike.
Optimistically,
Heather (James) McKeown

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Were you ever benn sexually abused by Father Bockus in any of his eight parishes?

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This is a support site for Victims, an information gathering point for those wishing to help turn around this wide spread crisis of sexual abuse, and a Forum to exchange ideas on future prevention in order to reduce the rampant sexual abuse throughout our society. Like you, we want a lot of answers! How can sexual molestation be so prevalent, our society allowing so many to turn a blind eye! Or twisting the blame to the Victims to keep you shut up? It is time to shout out, make noise, and stop this pandemic! Many of you have wrongfully pent in the guilt and shame for a long time, blaming yourselves. Through opening up and sharing, you will see you are innocent! We want you to know that, so this site can be the first step on a road of healing. However, it is not meant to be a substitute for the professional help you will probably require as a Victim. Yes, we truly care. We do have a lot of heartfelt hugs available, but the creators have no qualifications or training in therapy, so please do not consider us professionals. If you are in a crisis situation it is recommended you see a health care professional immediately. Help is out there! Please get it!

The Late Night Verdicts

Jay Leno,

"The U.S. Cardinals said they are going to develop a code of ethics to help them deal with the sexual scandal. Wait a minute, I thought their already was a code of ethics, it's called the Bible."

David Letterman,

"I read this in the paper this morning: New York City has a priest shortage. So you see, there is some good news in the world. ... To give you an idea how bad it is, earlier today in Brooklyn an alter boy had to grope himself."

Jay Leno,

"As you've probably heard, the Pope has asked all the Cardinals to return to Rome. You know how they got them all to come back? They told them that there was going to be a performance by the Vienna Boys Choir."

Daily Show host Jon Stewart, "The Cardinals will be staying at the Domus Sanctae Marthae, the new hotel at the Vatican, where turn down service means the bell boy isn't interested."

Jay Leno,

"They say (the Pledge of Allegiance) violates the separation of church and state. How about the separation of church and altar boy? That's what I'm worried about."

David Letterman,

"Cardinal Law had difficulty with his memory under oath today. He could only remember three commandments. Under oath, Cardinal Law said 'I do not recall' 43 times. I'm telling you, this guy is presidential material."

Jay Leno,

"The House Transportation Committee is now considering a bill that would allow pilots to carry guns for protection. I've got a better idea, why not give guns to altar boys, give them a fighting chance."

Jay Leno,

"In Boston, it looks like Cardinal Bernard Law isn't going to be punished. It turns out he's getting transferred to Rome, which is kind of like a promotion. He said today he wanted to thank all the little people."

David Letterman,

"The Catholic Church is finally cracking down. Here's the deal now: if a priest is transferred to another parish, he cannot take his live-in boyfriend."

David Letterman,

"The Catholic Church has just opened a new $2 million cathedral in Los Angeles. They really spared no expense. Each confessional has a panic button in it."

Jay Leno,

"The Church reaffirming celibacy — it's kind of like Clinton reaffirming monogamy."

David Letterman,

"The big Vatican summit wrapped up, closing ceremonies were Harry Connick Jr. The Vatican is taking a tough stand now, three strikes and you're transferred."

Jay Leno,

"This is the last Take Your Daughter to Work Day. Next year, boys will be involved too. I guess the church lobbied pretty hard on that one."

Jay Leno,

"After all these scandals in the church, many Roman Catholics are calling for an end to celibacy. And end to celibacy, how about starting celibacy? Let's at least try it to see if it works."

Jay Leno,

"Pope has called all the U.S. cardinals back to the Vatican. He's going to have Italy's top soccer coach talk to them. I believe the topic is how to do your job without using your hands."

Jay Leno,

"Today the Catholic Church unveiled its new policy. Don't ask, don't confess."

Jay Leno,

"Isn't it crazy with all these church scandals? I'm beginning to understand how all those Bibles ended up in hotel rooms."

Jay Leno,

"This week hundreds of bishops arrived in Dallas for their annual convention. You know what that means? Party. Party. Party. A couple of bellboys are being carried over the threshold tonight."

David Letterman,

"There is a big conference of Catholic Bishops in Dallas. Well this is great for the city, it brings in about $12 million in hush money."

Jay Leno,

"The Supreme Court ruled today that virtual child pornography is legal. Finally, some good news for the church."

David Letterman,

"Bush said we're going after white-collar criminals and I'm thinking 'Gee I wish the Catholic church would do that.'"

Jay Leno,

"Kids, if you see an ad that says Cardinals looking for a bat boy, watch out, that has nothing to do with the baseball team."

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Reverend Linda Faith Chalk"s Letter Updating the A C of C"s Intent to Help & Remove Bockus Sign

From :	Linda Faith Chalk
Sent :	November 4, 2043
To :	"'Michael Rilstone'"
CC :	"Bishop Barry Clarke"
Subject :	RE: Bockus

Hi Mike:

You did record my home address correctly but I have not been at home much to respond to your email. The meeting with the Bishop went very well. I took him a copy of the blog papers that I had printed out and so he has a file.

In sharing the concerns etc regarding the name of the street we concur that the first action is that we meet with the Mayor to put in motion the process to change the name of the street. He has agreed to make himself available for the appointment that I arrange with the Mayor’s office. Recognizing that he is also out of town that is a large commitment on his behalf for which I am grateful.

I would never presume to speak on his behalf. That would be hubris on my part but I assure you that he cares deeply about the situation and the fact that this has not been addressed and that the victims are still suffering causes pain because of the lack of pastoral care or support.

I do not believe that he nor anyone can sufficiently explain or even begin to understand why the Anglican Church of Canada acted as it did? What explanation can there possibly be?

As this was a first meeting and because he is pastoral as am I we share a pastoral concern that we be available to any of the victims as they are open to this possibility.

As I read this yesterday before I attended yet another meeting which the Bishop was chairing I handed him a copy of this email and so he has received everything that I have to date.

Again I cannot speak on his behalf but I will be copying everything to him so that he and I have the same file.

Any further information that you can share with us will be greatly appreciated and treated with confidentiality because these individuals have all ready suffered too much.

With every blessing.

Linda Faith Chalk

Walter Bockus Biography

Name: Walter Alfred Bockus

Born: Riceburg, Quebec April 27, 1913

Died: Saint John Regional Hospital, New Brunswick, Feb/98

1943, June 16th - ordained Deacon, by Bishop of Montreal, Cathedral

1944, May 1st - ordained Priest, by Bishop Dixon of Montreal at St. Cuthbert’s

1946, June 1^st - Married Dorothy Inez Maxwell of St. George, NB

1971 - Made Canon

Parishes

Parish #1 ~ 1940 - 1946

(Successively: Student-in-charge, then Deacon-in-charge, then Priest)

St. Simon’s Church

Montreal,

Parish #2 ~ 1943 - 1947 (curate)

St. Clement’s, Montreal

Parish #3 ~ 1947 - 1950

Foster-Bondville, Quebec

Parish #4 ~ 1950 - 1956

Redeemer

Montreal

Parish #5 ~ 1956 - 1964

St. Paul’s Anglican Church

Empire Avenue, Greenfield Park, Quebec

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1964: Fired from St. Paul’s, GPK by Bishop McGuire (sp?) of Montreal, for alleged pedophile activity based on complaints received from parents.

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Parish #6 ~ 1964 - 1966

Trinity Anglican Church, Parish of Andover

1295 West Riverside Drive, Perth-Andover, NB

http://www.trinitysj.com/

Parish #7 ~ 1966 - 1979

St. George’s Church, Parish of Carleton,

St. Andrews Archdeaconry, NB

Parish #8 ~From his Obituary: “Also served as Rural Dean of Lancaster for eight years” … (Was this Lancaster, NB or possibly Lancaster, Ontario, when he was in Montreal? Because we heard the GPK police received a query from an Ontario police detachment about Bockus and possible sexual abuses.)

Letter from Primate, November 23, 2005

Anglican Church of Canada

Office of the Primate, 80 Hayden Street, Toronto, ON M4Y 3G2

Tel. 416-924-9199 Ext. 276 / Email primate@national.anglican.ca

Dear Mr. Rilstone,

On the question of abusive clergy, I am sure you are aware that the Church now has a zero tolerance policy, and every diocese has a protocol with which to address problems past and present. A number of cases from the past are under investigation with the full collaboration of church authorities. It is a terrible legacy for any diocese to inherit, and one hopes that the steps that have been taken will assure that no such legacy will be passed on to another generation.

Yours faithfully,

Andrew S. Hutchison

Archbishop and Primate

Sexual Abuse ~ Excellent Essay Extracted from Interpol"s Web Site

The vast majority of children who are sexually abused are the victims of people that they know; parents, step parents, relatives, teachers etc. However, there are a considerable number of sex offenders who are prepared to spend a significant period of their lifetime infiltrating organisations or orchestrating opportunities to work with children or qualify in professions which afford them substantial access to children and young persons in order that they are able to abuse them.

People who sexually offend against children operate in different ways and fit into different categories. They come from all Countries, all cultures and all religions. They are anonymous to the general population and work and live alongside colleagues and neighbours who generally accept them as ‘normal’ people.

The general conception is that all sex offenders are predatory offenders who will covertly target a victim abduct them and sexually abuse them. This type of offender is the exception rather than the rule, however, they are the most dangerous and are often reported in the media as abductions which can and often do lead to murder of a child.

In general predatory child sex offenders tend to be male, less than average intelligent and are incapable of undertaking any prolonged period of grooming. They generally fit into a stereotypical offender profile, living alone or with a parent, unemployed or in low paid work and unable to form adult relationships. Their cycle of offending is also typical and begins with the basic attraction and sexual arousal by thoughts of children. He (the vast majority are men) will typically be in possession of either child erotica or child pornography with which he will fantasize and masturbate. At this stage he can certainly be described as, and fits the definition of, a paedophile. However, other than possessing child pornography, which is not an offence in many countries, he does not commit any offences. The reason why this type of person does not proceed beyond this stage is as a result of internal and external inhibitors or both.

Internal inhibitors are personal factors which control a persons behavior. The knowledge that it is morally wrong to sexually abuse a child or that sexual activity with a child can seriously damage the mental welfare of his victim in the future.

External inhibitors are far more basic and evolve around the fear of being caught and going to prison linked with the knowledge that their personal lifestyle would be seriously effected if it became public that they were sexually attracted to children.

He then identifies a child who is either alone or appears vulnerable and begins to make contact, possibly offering gifts, a cigarette or a ride in a car. At this time nothing further may happen, the offender will go home and masturbate thinking of the child and what might have happened.

These initial stages of the cycle are then followed by a period of guilt as a result of the internal and external inhibitors and a personal promise that it will never happen again. As time passes the inhibitors are broken down and the cycle starts one again continuing until the paedophile offends against the child. There are many paedophiles in society who we do not know the identity of who fit these criteria but have never offended.

The majority of sex offenders groom their victims, this can take many months, even years, and often begins with the process of grooming the parents of the child. The paedophile may recognize that a family were having difficulty in managing the logistics and finances of the household and befriend them with offers of assistance, both financial and in kind. Eventually having gained the trust of the parent the offender then offers to baby sit or take the child on outings during which time he then moves on to begin the process of grooming the child victim.

This part of the grooming process is the most crucial. The paedophile knows that he has to be able to control the child to the extent that he can sexually abuse him or her with the knowledge that the child will not disclose to another adult the fact that they have been sexually abused.

This control is obtained in many different ways, fear, oppression, favours, threats against either the child or their parent, making the child feel guilty about what has happened or by using a combination of these methods.

A typical example of how a paedophile operates would be the initial identification of a vulnerable parent who has either one or a number of children. It may be a single mother who having gone through an acrimonious divorce has had to move to accommodation that is smaller or of a lesser standard than her and the children are used to residing in. Family finances are stretched and there is less money available in the household for food, clothing and leisure activities. Once the new family unit is stable, the paedophile will then make his move, typically he may as part of his grooming process slowly introduced the family into accepting communal nudity within the home by, for example, leaving bathroom doors open whilst in use. Eventually the paedophile will sexually abuse his victim, he will have perfected a strategy to ensure their silence utilizing one or a number of the methods previously outlined.

In this example it isn’t difficult to comprehend the dilemma that the child has been put in. Her mother has found a new partner in life, she is very happy, the paedophile will have told his victim that if she ‘tells’ then he will go to prison, there will be no extra money coming into the household, there will be no more nice holidays for her and her mother. Her mother won’t believe her and will not love her anymore as a result. In order to protect her mothers happiness and the new family the victim remains silent.

This example is typical of how a paedophile may identify and ultimately abuse a child anywhere in the world, however, there are many other scenarios which could be used to describe how paedophiles infiltrate families, communities or organizations with the sole intent of sexually abusing children.

from: Interpol

Quotes of the Day ~ November, 2006

November 7, (Day One of this site) to November 20, 2006 "The truth will set you free" ~ Jesus.

November 21, 2006 "Child sexual abuse is one of the most horrific crimes, if not the worst. It attacks the most vulnerable people in our society, affects victims for life and rips away significant chunks from their most informative years." ~ Jim Gamble, Chief Exec, CEOP, UK

November 22, 2006 "Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.” ~ Herbert Ward

November 23, 2006 “The real sin against life is to abuse and destroy beauty, even one's own - even more, one's own, for that has been put in our care and we are responsible for its well-being.” ~ Katherine Anne Porter

November 24, 2006 "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter." ~ Martin Luther King

November 25, 2006 "Something comes up like bubbles to the surface, bringing up another part of ourselves that has been silent; that we were in the dark about. Lurking. Nightmares aren't my favorite thing. I want to feel safe, period. My soul wants to feel safe not terrorized." ~ Unknown

November 26, 2006 "For many years, I shut down that place inside myself that needed to rage, cry, ask questions and basically just express myself." ~ Unknown

November 27, 2006 In a statement about sex abuse claim cases: "I simply see us going broke," Duncan D. Wallace, the Anglican bishop of Qu'Appelle, which encompasses Regina, said of his diocese. With resignation, he added, "When you get down to it, all we need is a bottle of wine, a book and a table, and we are in business."

November 28 & 29, 2006 "A lot of times you shut off your whole heart off from your experience -- you close the door, and you wither and die. ~ Unknown

November 30 and December 1, 2006 "I'm doing this so that people who feel at 21 their lives are over, or they don't know how to have an intimate relationship, that they can be beautiful again." ~ Anonymous

Quotes of the Day ~ December, 2006

December 2 and 3, 2006 "The idea is to rescue myself from the role of a victim. That I have a choice left. Though I can't change what has happened, I can choose how to react. And I don't want to spend the rest of my life being bitter and locked up." ~ Unknown

December 4 to 6, 2006 "You decide whether you look at your reality or live pretending these feelings don't exist." ~ Unknown

December 7-9, 2006 "Pride is concerned with who is right. Humility is concerned with what is right." ~ Ezra Taft Benson

December 10, 2006 "It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men" ~ Frederick Douglas

	What name would you pick for the street Moe fought to have changed?
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